I've never met with pool builders so I wouldn't know. But I LOLed when you said your husband can't visualize things because I'm in the same boat. Like yesterday when I was having the issue with the deck guy he really wasn't understanding what I was saying (and neither was the deck guy, which is bad when the guy doing the work can't visualize it). I finally had to pull up a picture of someone's pool shell on here to make him understand. It worked, but not before a lot of frustration. I'm sure you have a complete picture in your head. I did too. But I had to learn to let it change, like yesterday, and that can be hard.
I have fake grass and as we do not get as hot as AZ, it does get pretty hot here. I purchased a turf that claimed to be cooler than other types. In my experience, they are correct. I can comfortably walk on ours even when it is 105 degrees out. Some other turf someone else had was too hot at 80-90 degrees out. My suggestion is if you decide to go with the fake turf, get samples and leave them out in the sun and test for yourself. We have had ours for two years. and love it. The only issue is washing the urine smell off in the summer time from the fur babies. It is a once a month task in the summer. Other than that, it is virtually maintenance free. This year I'm gonna get one of those old school lawn waters and move it every ten minutes to water down the turf.
just to keep my diary here lol
Appt 1: 1/12/2021 at 10am we really liked this guy, took his time and listened to me as well as taking the time to design something visual for my husband
Appt 2: 1/13/2021 at 10am we like this one too, we will see how it plays out in the end but so far offers less than the first
Appt 3: 1/13/2021 at 12pm this one is a hard NO from DH, dude called and changed appt to 11am which was fine but then was 30 min late and just rushed through us not listening to anything
Appt 4: 1/13/2021 at 2pm hoping this one works out like the first 2 as well
Appt 5: 1/15/2021 at 1pm
Appt 6: 1/15/2021 at 3pm
I have my lists printed and ready and also a question list ready for each for me to make notes on. I created a binder with sleeves for each one to keep my notes, appts, estimates all together so I don't get them all mixed up