There are two things I don’t agree with on the video but, that’s just me, I like to undo the thermal overload(white, blue and yellow wire in the above pic) it makes you inspect for any cracks from over heating or deformities, slip your 7/8ths wrench straight down to the shaft from behind the T/O, the casing actually has a cut out so you don’t have to hold the wrench, I don’t like messing with the capacitor unless I have to, second thing I don’t like about the video is no mention whatsoever about never touching the porcelain part of the shaft seal with fingers or lube, as far as your issue with the impeller, the end of the shaft is male threaded, your impeller should have female threads which would go together, the video does show that, if not you may not have the correct impeller,