Ok, let's ignore the equipment for a moment, you have semi-functioning equipment and the priority is the water exchange. Here is what I've found to work, myself and helping others.
1) you must do this in one fell swoop, not in stages You don't want water to mix as you are doing this, it will take longer.
2) re-read the no-drain exchange twice, print it out.
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2.5) For the PWTDS and the FWTDS calculations, you can take the pool water to the pool store (yes, I know, we told you not to us pool store testing...TDS and metal testing only). If you don't want to do that, I'd assume that your PWTDS is high (use 1500) and your FWTDS is low (500ppm). My GUESS is that you want to fill to the bottom of the deep end and drain from the shallow, but either get pool store results or use my suggestion and YOUR water temperatures and do the DeltaT calc to determine where to add and drain.
3) Get a 5 gallon pail. Time how long it takes to fill it from your garden hose. My guess about a minute, most residential is 5-6GPM.
4) Drop your sump pump in the pool and time the same for 5 gallons. It likely will take less time. If it takes less time, raise the hose over a structure or a tall ladder, this increases the work the pump has to do and will slow down the flow. Try to find a configuration where your input and output are about the same flow.
5) GO! Turn off the pool pump. Start the fill and the drain at the same time. Re-check my math, but you have to exchange 18K gallons. 18KG / 5g/min = 3600 minutes / 60 min/hr = 60 hours of water exchange. Should get you to 50 CYA...as the drain article explains, you might do an extra 10% or 6 hours to account for mixing...you can always add CYA back.
6) Watch the pool every couple of hours...if it is dropping, turn the sump off for a bit. If it is rising, turn the input off for a bit. I got mine to the point it would change 1/4" per hour. I think it took me 53 hours to do my exchange.
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