It’s not always easy to accept help, especially when we feel it’s a burden to someone else. Maybe just a heart to heart about why you’re helping and that you want to do it will be useful. Maybe ask for something that you know they secretly love to do - like if they can watch the kids or bake you some cookies. The alternative is that they pay someone to come do it.
We have talked a couple of times. We’ve had a really great relationship for years, and I’m glad to have the chance to help them. I have made a point the last couple of days of making sure when they say, “I’m going to the store; do you need anything?” to ask for something I really do need. Yesterday the wife got me some baking powder. Today the husband picked up some chlorine for us both. Strange thing was that Home Depot didn’t have muriatic acid on the shelf apparently. It’s a big help to me not to have to drive ten miles to do something like that, and I know they’re pleased to help out. (They would, of course, do that for me anyway and have done things like that in the past. I don’t want them to think that they owe me for helping because they really don’t.)