I've been out of town for 5 days, so I haven't fooled with mine. Before I left the last thing I did was change to a stiffer spring, which seems to have stopped the overflowing, but also reduced the max flow rate to 2-3, so this is not a satisfactory long term solution for me. My setup is fairly similar to barnyards except my check valve is between the flowmeter and the pump. My pool is 4' deep also, with the pump up on blocks 1' above grade (3' below water level) and no other check valves, no heater, no solar, no nothing, just filter and pump.
As far as the tilting, I haven't yet experimented with the orientation of the check valve but wondered if that would make a difference. Mine has always been positioned vertically with the flow arrow pointing downward. I don't know if repositioning it so it is horizontal, or with the flow arrow up would make any difference (using gravity to assist in keeping it closed?)
As for pool chemistry, my CH is only 50 so in my case that can't be blamed, I have never had the white stuff and all my parts are brand new. The main difference between me and barnyard is that none of the check valves I have tried *appear* to be defective (you can only blow through them one way) yet they randomly allow backflow, causing overflow.