You mentioned in another thread you've got an EC40 DE filter.
You stated in this thread, that after adding just under 4lbs of DE your filter pressure didn't change from the 'clean & empty' filter reading.
The DE pre-coating should increase your pressure, as now the Flex-tubes (fingers) are coated with the filter media (DE). I have the same filter (with a 1 hp pump) and it was not uncommon for me to have a "pre-coat pressure" (Hayward's term for a clean filter, freshly coated with clean DE) of ~12-14psi. Based on Hayward's manual, if your clean starting pressure is 14 psi... you shouldn't have to consider regenerating (bumping) the filter until the pressure reaches 21-24 psi.
From my own experience... I have a similar pool volume as yourself and typically run the filter 24/7 (yes, the motor gets hot). I've had that pump/motor for over 10 yrs.
I only have to bump my filter once or twice a season. (Granted I don't have a big load on the system, 2 adults are primarily all that use the pool).
Additionally, Hayward puts a 'Flow Controller' SPX1055 (orifice) on the inlet of the filter which constricts the opening to around ½", doubtful your return light is .
A question:
At the end of the season, do you 'clean' the fingers? First using dish soap & water (they can get coated with body oil, sunblock, organic matter) and then a 1:1 solution of Muriatic acid & water (as recommended by Hayward). If not, the Flex-tubes (fingers) can begin blocking off with deposits. This can lead to high starting pressures and decreased time needed between regenerations.
Just some food for thought.
Respectfully,