There may be a small leak in the o-rings in the pipe going into or coming out of the filter or in the air relief valve (the valve on top that lets you bleed air from the system). Do you have any small water leaks in or around the filter when it is running? This leak is where air could get back into the filter when it is turned off and push the DE back to the pool. (it happened to me). When you turn off the pump, listen closely for any hissing coming from any part of the filter connections - this would be evidence of air getting in, pushing water out. Also, are you sure the grids are snugly and securely fitted to the manifold? If not, that gives the DE and dirty water a place to make its way back to the pool. I don't know enough about the effects of a bad spider gasket on the multiport to know if this could be an issue, but I guess it might.
Good luck.