LoraMae,
Welcome to the forum. You can get all the help you need here but there's a couple of important things to deal with first..
1. One of you has to take care of the pool. Either his way or your way. If not, you'll both end up throwing things in the pool (or at each other...yikes

) that are counterproductive. Get together and decide....two people cannot clear a pool by adding different ingredients.
2. You need better advice than you are getting from the pool store.
Your pH has to be your first concern. I can't imagine how they measured it that high so I doubt that it is but, nevertheless, you need to get your pH retested ASAP.
Then, get some chlorine in your pool.
Start by putting in 1 big jug of Clorox each evening after the sun is off the pool. Do this each evening until you can post a full set of tests that should look like this.....
pH
FC
CC
TA
CYA
The CYA test (which they didn't provide) is very, very important.
The biggest leap towards taking charge of your pool is getting your own test kit and doing your own testing. Meanwhile get those test numbers, decide who's going to manage the pool, and we'll all help keep it sparkling clear and save you a lot of money.