Piney, sorry that the links won't work for you

I've been meaning to write a post on DE filters, but haven't had the time to do it right

My bad! Oh well, this will be good practice for when I finally get around to it.
First, I'm assuming that you have a multiport like the one that was on your sand filter.
When you go to backwash, turn off the pump when you change the valve positions (but you already knew that). The first thing to do is to make sure that the tank is full of water by opening the air relief valve until you get a steady flow of water. Then put the multi on backwash and watch the 'sightglass' until it is ~ clear. Then turn the multi to 'rinse' and run the pump for ~15 seconds. Then back to backwash ... just keep doing backwash/ rinse over and over until when you backwash for ~ 30 seconds, nothing more comes out. As long as the pool water isn't nasty (ie, algae filled or brown) run a ~1 minute filter cycle and then backwash/ rinse again. At this point, you've gotten all of the DE that you can out of the filter without taking it apart and thoroughly rinsing the grids, however - this is only about 80% of the DE that's in the filter - so when recharging the filter(adding more DE) only add 4/5ths of the recommended amount.
OK, now for the other questions:
The amount of De to add should be on the filter's label - if you can't read it because of the age, let me know the manufacturer and the height and girth and I can probably give you a good number for the size/ amount. The amount on the label is only for a fully clean filter, as per above, only add 80% if you've backwashed (ie, if the filter takes 6 lbs DE clean only add ~ 5 lbs after backwashing)
The easiest way to measure DE is with a scoop available at pool stores and other places that sell DE - most hold 1 lb but some only hold 3/4 lb. If you have a decent scale, you can weigh whatever you'll be measuring the DE with and then see how much DE it will hold (weigh it empty and see how much you have when full of DE, you may want to also see what it weighs ~ 1/2 full) While we're 'talking' about this, overcharging (putting in the full 'clean' amount of DE when the filter is still ~20% coated) will clog the grids after just a few backwashes (I've seen some that have ~ 20 lbs of DE in them - when the unit only is supposed to have 6 lbs

) and you won't be filtering efficiently. Conversely, not having enough DE in the filter can cause the fabric on the grids to clog up and the only way to fix that is to open the unit and manually clean the grids :x You should get used to manually cleaning the grids at least once a year - if you winterize the pool, doing it in the fall is what I'd recommend, that way you know you're starting out in the spring with a clean filter. Another reason to annually open the filter is to check to see if the grids need some chemical treatment - if the grids hold more than 1" of water for more than ~30 seconds, the fabric is clogged with either oils or calcium - at this point you want to soak them in a dilute mixture of TSP (tri-sodium-phosphate) or automatic dishwasher powder for a few hours. Then soak them in a dilute mixture of muriatic acid (something along the lines of 10 - 20:1) for ~5 hours. You'll know you're good if the water flows out fairly quickly when you pull the grids from the bath.
As for when to backwash, when the pressure gauge rises 8 psi over when the unit was 100% clean and properly coated with DE
You didn't ask, but I'll tell you anyway

If you have 2 suction ports going (ie, skimmer and main drain or 2 skimmers), you can just add the DE to the skimmer, if you only have 1 skimmer, and no other suction, you need to premix the DE in a 5 gallon bucket before adding it.
I hope that this makes up for my laziness yesterday when all I did was link to some posts/ threads that you can't open

If you need any more help, I'm more than willing to put in the time to answer your questions.
Please let us know how it goes :-D