Final report: chalk up another win for the TFP SLAM method! It took 7+ days for water to get absolutely crystal clear w/ his sand filter. He is getting a lot of sand on the floor so maybe it has issues. The DE trick didn't seem to help speed up the process. The first time I added DE following the TFP instructions waiting for a 1 PSI increase after adding 1 cup DE to skimmer, then 12 hours later we checked and it had shot up 4-5 PSI so we backwashed immediately. Repeated the addition of DE and didn't get a big jump like the first time. Can't say it did anything.
He had to spend $300-$400 on chlorine by the time it was all said and done. Roughly equivalent to what a drain and fill would have been if we were on city water/sewer. But, since we are on a well, trucking in water for a complete drain and fill would have been $940, so this was still more economical.
We ran out of time to get his chlorinator tuned before I left on vacation, then he went out of town and had family house-sitting that used the pool extensively and the pool got cloudy again. But he caught it quick and I was able to walk him thru a mini-SLAM while I was on vacation using test strips believe it or not. It helped that stabilizer was still low. Back in the clear with an OCLT pass and should be good until his CYA gets too high again. He'll never convert to liquid chlorine w/ testing, he has no technical ability whatsoever. He even read the strip instructions wrong at first and held it under water for 30 seconds instead of dipping and holding level for 30 seconds.