Thanks kindly for the support and suggestions. I got this working with the Shelly relay - I put in a simple schedule and confirmed that it switches the heat on and off correctly. In retrospect I wish Iʻd bought 24v relays, but itʻs working fine on a 240v thoʻ the wiring wasnʻt as smooth to do. Now to clean it up and move on. I have to order things like right angle and piggyback spade connectors online; itʻs hard to find many things locally in Hawaii.
Is there any standardization for Smart Home automation? I couldnʻt get the Shelly relay to work on the eWeLink app, and couldnʻt get the Sonoff relay to work on the Shelly app. We also just recently got a PV solar installation up and running and Hawaii is likely to move to Time-of-Use residential billing, so Iʻm getting interested in home automation of items that are big power users. I already have 2 Alarm.com ZWave thermostats, and neither app seems to be able to recognize them. It would be nice to get various control devices to sit under the same umbrella.