Congrats on adding solar; you're gonna love it!
You should be able to find "Maximum Working Pressure" for your filter. Correct me if wrong, but I think the filter is commonly the lowest rated component. If there's a weaker link, I'd check that. I found 50 psi for a couple of cartridge filters. You could check other components fairly readily. This applies to the "is it dangerous?" question.
Is it normal? Sounds like +4 is normal, so you're a bit high.
If it was me, I'd avoid running my pump real close to its maximum head. Your pump heads out at 35 PSI so that sounds OK. Based on its pump curve, the pump is capable of pushing 95 GPM at 12 PSI and 80 GPM at 21. I don't entirely trust pump curves, but it's fair to say the % drop in flow is realistic.
That means a bit more run-time for skimming and filtration, and therefore more power consumption. The pumping experts here are amazing and can probably find ways to get some of your flow back and optimize, so it's worthwhile exploring the possibilities. On the other hand to get the most out of your solar, push max water you can, within what it's rated for. Gains beyond a certain flow are minimal, and hence why some bypass might be the better compromise.
I notice you also have a propane heater, which would have a minimum and maximum flow rate, and flow to it would drop as well. Probably fine, but I would double-check that to be sure the minimum is still met. Not dangerous or anything because the heater would cut out if flow got too low, but good to be in-spec for best performance.
As always, I defer to the experts!!
Enjoy the warmth!!