does it really matter if your pool isn't PERFECTLY balanced
My pool has never been perfectly balanced, and it likely never will be. That's not the point here. The point is I've followed these steps and my pool is so much clearer and safer to swim in, beyond my wildest dreams... And it takes so little effort! It's a great big bucket of water outside and it's always changing and never quite "where it could be".
Early on it was a big realization: It's not necessary to check all of those levels every single day, so testing really isn't that big a deal day-in day-out.
As I started to get my pool aligned with TFP methods I also found that the strips changed colors that weren't actually on the charts. I don't know if it was because of our FC recommended levels or what. They just seemed to go haywire on me.
There's also an important lesson here around the difference between precision and accuracy.
These test kits we are so adamant about using have quite a bit of margin for error. It's the ability to have consistent, controlled, repeating results that we back up with a tested and proven calculator that gives us amazing results with often very little effort. For example: My pH comparator block has a resolution of 0.3. The calcium hardness and TA tests many of us use is a 25ppm and 10ppm per drop test, respectively. At recommended levels that's easily +/- 5% to 15% error per drop. Not exactly guaranteed accurate, but over time the results become very precise and repeatable, especially when we can take a measurement, dose a chemical, then measure again to verify.
Same with dosing any number of chemicals, and I've definitely fallen into the perfectionist trap there. For those of us with medium to large pools, the margin for error is incredibly forgiving. If I need to drop the pH by 0.2 (which my comparator block will not measure) in my 25,500 gallon pool, that's 11oz of muriatic acid. If I accidentally poured 20, I might fall just over 0.3, but I'll never be able to notice that small a color difference. It'll bounce right back, and if it doesn't, there's plenty of time to find some chem to bring it back.
Chlorine is even more forgiving. There's basically no downside besides slightly higher cost to dosing all the way up to SLAM levels with chlorine. This gets directly to your question in the subject line. The DPD powder test gives us either 0.2 or 0.5 (depending on test kit) resolution for FC and CC up to very high levels. There's tons of margin built into that CC test. I often see a slight color change for CC and log 0.5ppm CC when I know for sure it's probably 0.1 or 0.2. The important thing is, it doesn't take me TWO drops to clear the sample. That'd mean I had a serious problem, and that kind of direct measurement helps us determine when to start or stop slamming an algae bloom.
Then there's the CYA test. We round up to the nearest 10. No need for really any accuracy at all, no deep thoughts, just glance, record, retest if needed. Keep an eye on it over time and make sure it doesn't go too high. This is critical for us to set the groundwork for our baseline chlorine levels so we're not creating a dangerous pool on either side of the scale by having too much or too little free chlorine. But it's definitely not exact.
I think honestly both you and your wife are absolutely right. She's right when she says, "It doesn't have to be perfect. You're overthinking this." I did that for months.
And you're right too. Who wouldn't want to show up and "do it right" and take pride in their pool? Maybe see if she's okay with taking some photos of your pool now, and then again after 6 weeks or so of really giving it a go with our method. I don't know about y'all, but I definitely know I've blown $100 on something dumb and glugged it into my pool. What's the difference in buying a real test kit? If saving a fortune on flim-flam pool store fixes wasn't enough, would you pay $70-100 for a chance to have the respect and admiration of your spouse by telling her she was right, that it actually didn't have to be perfect but it still could be this good (and easy)?
And if you decide not to continue with testing like we do, I'm sure someone will gladly offer you a fair amount for your unused test reagents. There's test strips aplenty out there and we all know where to find them... We just choose a different path and our pools show it.