If this topic has been addressed please redirect me - if not then I would appreciate respectful suggestions (don't get me wrong, I totally enjoy the sarcasm on this site but it just won't apply here - I have to live next to these people)
We moved into a subdivision of well-kept houses with 50% pools about 7 months ago. Residents here keep their properties well groomed. Unfortunately none of my immediate neighbors have a pool in their yard. The houses are very close together and divided by privacy fences. We are cordial and always wave and say Hi when we cross paths with the neighbors.
However, when we introduced ourselves to the neighbors they would bring up the pool by the third conversation and drop hints of being invited to swim. One person never introduced themselves but asked my son if we were planning on sharing the pool with the neighbors...another neighbor I had spoken to 2x went so far as to tell me that he was waiting to be invited to swim (that was in February). Another neighbor (not living next to me), told me he would bring the beer and brats, while another told me that he had to drive to a local community center to swim because it was theraputic for his injured hip.
So far I have either deflected or ignored the reference to the pool mostly because I don't know what to say that wouldn't sound hurtful.
We have spent a lot of $ and work very hard to keep our pool sparkling - we enjoy swimming in it every day.